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We’re in the middle of a crazy busy time—the annual Bitcoin Conference in San Salvador is this week, and we have a lot of friends and family here. Some friends recently purchased a property with an older house on the beach, and asked us to help them furnish it before they arrived. It needed everything from a fridge and stove to beds and couches. Let’s just say, it’s been keeping Tom pretty busy.
Last week we had 3 sweet little kittens show up at our door. This community has cats everywhere we look. And we can’t turn them away. But we desperately need to find homes for some of them. Any takers…?? Who could say no to this…?
This is my final post on the topic of the trans agenda. I’m half-relieved, half-sad. Relieved to be “done” writing about such a difficult topic, but sad because this issue still weighs so heavily on my heart. It’s become a “normal” part of today’s world, but I don’t feel like we should ever normalize something that is causing so much suffering and harm for this generation.
“We are told we must learn to accept absurdity as common sense and common sense as absurdity.”
—Karen Hunt, author and blogger
There’s a lot that’s NOT being talked about when it comes to this stuff. And that bothers me as a mom. A LOT. There are some things where I draw the line—when people tell my kids that they should think a certain way, when they tell them things inappropriate for kids’ ears, or only give them half-truths (or lies) presented as truth. Especially when those are topics that could have huge negative impacts on my kids’ future. When it comes to things I disagree with morally and fundamentally, that’s where I draw the line, and I become a mamma bear.
Are we as adults—parents, teachers, influencers—causing children to mess up their lives? There are huge ramifications for that like Jesus said in Matthew 18:6. In the name of “helping” kids, our culture seems to be doing untold harm. And adults need to see the WHOLE picture and take responsibility for what they’re doing to harm kids. They are BEAUTIFULLY made. And yet adults are telling them that doctors can help “re-make” the parts of them that may have been made wrong..?! I think King David said it best:
Have you noticed in the last 20 years how gender-reveal parties have become all the rage?! Why do parents make such a big deal about the gender of their baby? It can be so fun to know though, right?! I loved knowing that my first baby was a girl! We waited till birth for the other 2 because Tom wanted the surprise, and that was fun too. ☺️
Arranging all those pretty little outfits for our first daughter, folding all those pink onesies, crocheting cute little homemade hats for her…yes, I made a few of those, back in the days when I had more time—haha! I loved dressing each of my baby girls in cute little girly things. And putting bows and flowers in their hair.
These days our girls love wearing dresses and skirts to look pretty. But they also like wearing blue, black, and grey, and even playing in the mud. Neither of those things makes them more or less of a girl or gives them the need to question their gender. As a kid, I was a bit of a “tom-boy” and so were many of my friends. We did some girly things, and we also played with frogs, did sports, and worked hard stacking wood with the guys. And then of course, we all went through the awkwardness of puberty, questioning our self-worth, and who we’d be as an adult.
Why are girls twice as likely as boys to want to change their gender? Could it be that the way they’re wired is completely different, even as a child? The female brain is totally connected from one side to the other, making emotional connections with everything. Since social media came along, rates of depression and suicide among girls have been rising exponentially. I won’t go into that, but it’s fascinating—girls care so much about how their peers respond to them. They’re desperate to fit in and belong.
Back to the gender-reveal parties—why would a parent care so much about their baby’s gender, even throwing a party around “revealing the gender,” and then a few years later, let that child be told they could be whatever gender they “feel” they are…??
Sadly, that is the teaching of our time—gender is fluid, and you can be whatever you feel you are. We have become so “advanced” now that we can help people change their bodies into whatever they feel…BUT at what cost? Will we look back in 5-10 years in regret of what we’ve done to this generation..??
For Tom and me, this agenda was something we NEVER wanted our beautiful daughters exposed to. This was a line in the sand for us. We don’t want our children to start being confused about who they were created to be. This was something that made us start seriously considering leaving our beloved Canada.
Many youth are now experiencing serious regret after being told as a teen that this is the best option for them. Their health issues are often extreme—as I mentioned in my last post.
Why are we as the “western culture”encouraging this stuff for developing children? Is this really a viable solution to kids’ identity crises?
As I mentioned in my last post, researchers have found that kids who’d experienced trauma or abuse were much more likely to want to change their gender. Interestingly and of note, it is also more likely that an autistic child will pursue changing their gender…and autism has been on the rise.
I came across an interesting article online by Jennifer Bauwens, Ph.D., Center for Family Studies at Family Research Council:
“The UCLA Williams Institute, an LGBTQIA+ advocacy group, found that:
45 percent of transgender-identifying people reported childhood sexual abuse.
44 percent of transgender-identifying people reported childhood physical abuse.
75 percent of transgender-identifying people reported childhood emotional abuse.
When someone has endured a traumatic event, particularly one sexual in nature, it is not uncommon for a person to hate the parts of their body or want to get rid of those aspects of themselves that made them vulnerable.
For the trauma survivor, an ideology that suggests a child can be born in the wrong body, unfortunately, fits hand-in-glove with the mentality of a person who self-harms and wants to dissociate from any aspect of their being or body that highlights vulnerability. Yet, despite this knowledge, clinical settings and research studies promoting transgenderism have not properly accounted for this significant variable and how it relates to gender dysphoria.
—Jennifer Bauwens, Ph.D.
I find this incredibly fascinating…and so disturbing at the same time. Why has our culture ignored so many of the root issues?!
We see the trans agenda as a very dark one in our nation, permeating our culture. Last year when we visited Canada, two friends of mine who had their young kids in the public school system expressed their concerns to me. One told me about the SOGI (sexual orientation and gender identity) club that had recently started at her kids’ school during recess time. There was a huge rainbow tent and kids handing out treats to kids that would come to join or had questions. What 7-year-old wouldn’t want to come and get free snacks, and be part of the new cool club…?!
Another friend I visited said that her daughter’s school had sent home letters, informing parents that they didn’t have the funding for enough education assistants (EA’s) in the classrooms. Her six-year-old daughter came home within the first week of class and said she’d had to pick her pronouns for a special pin to wear. The little rural school had invested in a new machine for making “pronoun pins” for elementary kids.
Wait…what..?! My friend was appalled that the funding was going to a fancy, unnecessary machine instead of toward more EA’s. And she was even more angry that she hadn’t been told ANYTHING prior to her daughter being exposed to “needing to choose her pronouns.”
If my grandparents were still around, they’d be utterly shocked at what’s being taught (and done) to this generation. Many parents and grandparents are opposing these ideological ideas. Most parents in Canada and the USA don’t want teachers telling their kids that they can be whatever gender they’d like to be. But the forces against them are loud and powerful.
How much the world has changed since our grandparents were kids! I’m in shock to think that even just 20 years ago, there was no way any of this stuff was being taught to children. But was it being taught in the universities..? It has seeped in gradually, but now it’s being pushed with full-force. At first we were given a bit at a time. Now it’s being shoved down our throats, and you “have to accept it!” If you don’t agree with these things, they label you, even as far as “unfit to be the parent of your child” as we saw with what happened to the man in our province (see my last article). Most parents just want to protect their kids and get them through puberty in one piece…literally.
Recently a couple from Canada came to visit El Salvador, and spotted this on the back of a bus in San Salvador. This is the original along with a translated version of it. Notice the sponsor. Canadian taxpayers dollars are being used for these kinds of causes around the world…
Friends of ours here have a contact in government who they reached out to with concerns. El Salvador is predominantly Catholic and Protestant (45% Catholic and 32% Protestant) and the majority of people here are strongly opposed to this agenda. Immediately the guy (in government) wanted us to put together some thoughts on why El Salvador should push back against this. He made a tweet with our messages which got thousands of comments.
Here’s part of what my husband, Tom, wrote in response to the Canadian-sponsored push for “trans-rights” here in El Salvador:
“What started in Canada as a push for equal rights for people who identify as trans-gender has morphed into an attack on children, on women’s rights, and on the right of parents to raise their children in line with their values.
Biological males who are identifying as trans-women are now using the same public washrooms and changing rooms as young girls. There are many examples of biological males exposing their genitalia to women and children in these situations. As a father of three girls, I am horrified to think of what my daughters may have to encounter in this type of society.
Women and girls also no longer have their own sports leagues where they can compete against other women. I regularly hear about biological males winning women’s sporting events because of their unfair physical advantages. The hopes of many young women are being destroyed as they are prevented from achieving their athletic dreams….
…And finally, parents who object to their child’s decision to mutilate their own bodies are being arrested and fined. What started as a movement for equal rights has now morphed into a tyrannical push to force everyone in society to agree with this ideology or risk being bankrupted, censored, or jailed.
I urge the people of El Salvador to not fall for the lie that this is simply a push for equal rights for trans people. This is just deceptive language being used to sneak a dangerous ideology into this wonderful country that has such a strong belief in family and God.
—Tom, husband and father
This is just one of the big issues in Canada. There are many others. Those are for another day. Another post. But I felt very compelled to share this.
My home country, beautiful Canada, has turned so far away from its original values, that it breaks my heart when I see what’s happening. I wish it wasn’t the truth—I wish the strong moral and family values that our grandparents had were still going strong. In the last few years, we have seen so many things and heard so many horror stories, it’s impossible to deny the state of our nation.
It weighs so heavily on my heart as a mom who wants to protect my kids—kids are SO vulnerable. Please protect your children. And share the truth, including the unpleasant realities, about this topic with youth and parents around you. We have a responsibility to speak out, not sit by in silence.
Thanks for taking time to read this! I promise I’ll get back to our life here again in my next post.
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